Feminism: The Time You Spend Being Consistently Aware of Danger Is Time You Don’t Get to Spend Being Happy

I want to link you to No Safe Place {PBS} and also
Rape Culture {Lipstick Feminists}, mainly because it seems a good way to explain to (cisgendered) men what it’s like to be raised as a woman in our present society – to have a consistent low-grade fear and to be told that if we don’t have that fear (if we’re willing to walk out of our house at night without an escort), terrible things will happen to us.

We may be afraid of strangers, but it is the most intimate of strangers — a husband, a lover, a friend — who is most likely to hurt us. According to a U.S. Justice Department study, two-thirds of violent attacks against women are committed by someone the woman knows. Can we ever be too wary?

A woman’s worst nightmare? That’s pretty easy. Novelist Margaret Atwood writes that when she asked a male friend why men feel threatened by women, he answered, “They are afraid women will laugh at them.” When she asked a group of women why they feel threatened by men, they said, “We’re afraid of being killed.”

If you ask a woman what she is afraid of and what she does to protect herself, she’ll give you a list of specifics. Ask a man the same question, and he might not understand what you mean. While we were working on our documentary, we conducted an informal survey, asking that very question to men and women. Their answers were enlightening. Typically, women were afraid of physical violence or they were afraid for their children’s safety. … Men, on the other hand, tended to be more afraid of failure or being humiliated.

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